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Saturday, 14 July 2012

Do you believe in the institution of marriage???.....

I was just going through the newspaper magazine & ended up with a Bollywood actress’ interview where she talked about her boyfriend & her believe in the institution of marriage.
She doesn’t believe in the institution of marriage. She believes that love is not about binding someone in chain & stamping it with the marriage certificate. True!!!.....As far as there is love & commitment, one doesn’t need to prove it with getting married. Love is all about freedom & sharing emotions with each other, to be there always around your love when he/she needs you most.

Whenever we go through these kinds of stuffs, at once it strikes our mind, ‘how beautiful!!!.........’ We keep praising them for their beautiful emotions & try to adopt it into our lifestyle. A star makes a statement & it becomes a headline of the newspaper.

It struck me too & I kept pondering- ‘do I believe in the institution of marriage or not?’- what I believe is, when someone says that she doesn’t believe in the institution of marriage, she converses a statement to be further added that till her love isn’t going to marry someone else it doesn’t matter whether they are married. Because the moment your love would decide to marry someone other than you, you would go for a question if you weren’t his love.  Didn’t he find you good enough to spend his entire life with you, ‘his love’? Don’t you feel, then, to get married?

When you say that you don’t believe in marriage-don’t deny your internal desire with surreal statements- you mean though you believe in marriage & want to exchange your rings, but you want to give your love his own space. You don’t want to compel him; you want him to live his life the way he wants. Love is just like that. It makes you feel free though it wants you to get enclosed into it completely.

Don’t weigh it against the most often situation when someone leaves his/her spouse for another love. It’s something very different as here you may not quote about your perception of marriage.

We are human beings & it hurts when someone, whom you loved the most, ditch you in the midway. Marriage is the certificate of commitment, but yes……..if there is love it doesn’t matter how far it would take you to get that certificate. Eventually, when we get married with the person we are in love with, we feel at the top of the world.



  1. That's the right perspective. Be in love and then get married. Or marry if you have the capacity to love someone with their flaws.

    I don't understand when people say they don't believe in the institution of marriage. I wonder, do they understand it? Marriage is not about living under same roof, it has a deeper emotional meaning.

  2. @ saru: oho! with your first statement you have misinterpreted me- love is accepting others with their flaws.
    And yes! marriage has a deeper emotional meaning. Either you marry or not, your relationship status wouldn't be a halt to your love relationship, but marriage is another step toward love.
    If your love doesn't think you good enough to get married with, he was not in love wit you.

    1. I think we both misunderstood each other.:) All I wanted to say was love is an essential ingredient of marriage. Be in love, you could read as someone should be ready to embrace other person, as you said, with flaws.:)


  3. Yeah its true to get in love with some one and then get married... But what about them who never find a true companion for themselves?

    1. @anshul: thanks for reading the post.
      But, I'm, here, not talking about just love & marriage. I doubt the attitude of people toward the institution of marriage where they convey(indirectly) with their no trust in the institution of marriage that if their love wouldn't marry him/her, it's OKAY! with them while situation is totally otherwise as we get hurt when ditched.
      Marriage isn't a matter till your love is with you.

  4. What a spotlighted post here!

  5. Its to good to LOVE someone in life...
    Its better to MARRY the person whom you LOVE...
    But it is most exciting to marry a person and then LOVE starts...
    I belong to the last category , who married first like any other Indian who believes in arranged marriage.
    But at the same time I have seen my closest of friends getting married after falling in love or the ones whom I belived were made for each other when they were Love birds but eventually broke off...
    And these were the people who shaked my faith in Love...
    I firmly believe in in the instituion of marriage... Marry once and you will know why I am saying so ... since some feelings cannot be expressed in words... they are meant to be experinced.

    1. @ravindra rajput: Thanks for your feedback dear :)

      But this post is altogether different to one's believe in love marriage & arranged marriage. How far a relationship lasts, it depends on those two people & their perception & mutual understanding.
      What I try to convey is, marriage makes your love relationship more sweeter. You may wait for years for your love but you may not see it go away from yourself.


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