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Wednesday, 16 January 2013

Protest every parochial thought- I protest mine!

It’s been a month when the horrendous crime of Delhi gang rape (for which protest has been voiced) took place, & still no verdict has been finalized. But yes, our police officers have been ordered to alert at every public place, I don’t know if it’s for controlling the perpetrators or protestors!

Our respected Chief Minister of Delhi prevents herself & her friends from being accountable for the scaling forth of these crimes & violence as everything isn’t at her toe. She questions the accountability of the police department & the upbringing of this patriarchal society. I second her second reason, but she has that power to not let these social monsters snore at their desk; & not whip them up just to protect the Raisina Hill, or any of their own interests. She & others in her genre need to have a Hajmola dietary plan to digest the fact that their proactivity wakes up only at the clamour of the aam-junta. Had there been no protest, either of our ministers & police officers wouldn’t have shown their capability to arrest the culprits within few hours. And still, rapes, molestations, & murders have been ensuing, but no each case (which weren’t brought to specific significance with the protest) has been handled this way. Our political ministers have announced monetary help & employment benefits to the kin of the December 16 Delhi bus gang-rape victim, but why this mercy & benevolence have not been shown to others? Didn’t the grim situation they have gone through were similarly horrific & tragic too?

Whenever any such violent case comes in the newspapers, each one of us gasp for a moment & abuse the culprits. Our uncles get outrageous & showcase their bitterness toward the culprit that if they were in power, no such monsters would have been spared with mercy. But…………when their horrible ugly face comes in your front, then it’s astonishing & disgusting at the same time that- had they found your vulnerability with a distant core you would also be not spared with any mercy. These monsters hide their ugly face behind their power-status in proportion to your vulnerability-status. Someone with powerful status at his back, who knows that no damage would occur to his honour as everyone is there to shield him off this, would damage you & get away. Someone with lower status, where again no damage would occur to him-as he really hasn’t earned anything to lose, would damage you & get away. And, people with middle class status, who could be trapped & who could lose their honour with a single case against them, would find a prey within you on the hoard of relationships to damage you & stay with you forever.

Moreover, whenever any girl gets raped, people starts blaming her for there must be some indulgence of her to wooing the culprit. She must have worn short mini skirt, or she should have given some seductive gestures to him. If any girl wears short skirts, it doesn’t mean of her to get raped. If any girl had given any seductive gestures to you, she might want a little bit of attraction or consensual sex, but not rape. There is a big difference between consensual sex & rape. Consensual sex is a sex with the consent of both people & rape is a forced sex. People blame modernity, in apropos of clothing esp., that when women wear short dresses it arouses the sexual desires on men. Ok! But when men appear (almost) naked, esp. when in our Indian culture- holy Sadhus or Nagas appear in front (as you could see them in Maha Kumbh Mela ), or when men pee on roadsides all around India, why don’t women rape, assault, molest, or even insult them! It’s just the sick mentality of men who rape. Rape isn’t justifiable in any way.   

Asaram Bapu mocked at us & advised said that the girl should have begged in front of them & called them brothers to save her dignity. But what he would say for the girl who was raped by his own brother (which happened after the December 16 case). Abhijit Mukherjee who embossed us with ‘dented & painted girls’, what remarks he would give to that 70 year old lady, that 42 year old lady, & esp. that 6 year old baby girl- raped in Delhi, & another 6 year old raped in South India. These little babies aren’t even acknowledged with the terms ‘rape & protest’.  Shame!!!

Our judiciary system has got waned no power left with it, & with that no trust. That black strap had been tied with traditions & parochial kindness so firmly that every action gets failed to untie the knot. The minor accused, who is the main culprit & who brought damage to the 23-year old girl’s intestine, wouldn’t be served with severe punishments just because he is 5 months younger to the maturity group. Our judiciary system needs to check his birth certificate for that. What the hell!!! Hadn’t this culprit got to know that he was going to kill someone & he raped someone’s modesty? Maturity doesn’t come with age but with the growth of the mental-attitude.   

We are very much engrossed with our tradition & culture, and have been following them blindly. We aren’t open about learning something & accepting our mistakes. Women are expected to be kind & nice every time. They aren’t expected to use their mind every time. And, when any girl raises her voice, she gets tagged with the term ‘rebel’. So was I.

So, I had been practicing this nice attitude with bringing tranquility to my mind, and avoiding that every thought which I am not inclined to accept anymore. And, somewhere it had brought dullness to me. Few weeks before (when this incident came to light) I stepped here, in Delhi, for career reasons. I have been to malls with my elder sister & her male friend. With this awful crime against women occupying everyone’s mind, our dear friend- while looking at Bata’s showroom poster where a woman was sitting with wearing the brand shoes- commented that what’s the need to show a woman here when it’s about shoes. And, I, without thinking much, nodded with him & said: “Good thought!” with a thought that he must be objecting to the objectification of girls. But old habits die hard. I always give a second thought to whatever happened throughout the day. So, I pondered over those words which were crawling in my mind, and I found myself wrong. I was wrong with that thought that the poster was about objectification of a woman. Had there been a guy wearing those shoes, would it be perceived with the same sense? No. If we would object every other next thing blindly with the fear of rape, then no one could save this world. I apologize for that immature nod, and would clear it with our friend at the next meeting. Because, my single nod would make him believe that he was right (though, he is really a nice guy).

It’s high time that we change this world by bringing a change-first to ourselves. Protest & condemn each & every issue, the way you could do (because every single voice matters, esp., in this technically-driven world), which could bring the hell to this beautiful world. I want this fight come to an end, but not this protest. Please protest!


  1. excellent write. We have been sensitized to our own thought processes by this incident. Now I find many a conversation, opinion, advertisement, movie dialogue raising my hackles for showing women in a subservient position to men and I object vehemently to anything that calls for a restriction to free thought and action by women.

  2. You are right. I could not have said better ~

  3. First, I feel irritated when nothing is being done. As you said its been a month and no action. There was a big 'Ponzi' fraud in US in 2008 and the culprit was arrested with few hours and prosecuted within 1 month. This case too, like others will die in the memory of citizens, shame on us. I hate when people talk and give their valuable but trashy opinion.

    Thought provoking and a logical narrative of the event and what followed thereafter.

  4. @ everyone: Just keep protesting.

    It's so terrific that that 17 year-old monster has been given shield of being juvenile. All in vain. :(

  5. Seriously and Does someone who has committed such a heinous crime can be considered a juvenile? Age is irrelevant when someone has stooped to that level.


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