Violence against Women

We get life once, and we should try to live it at our best. Live & let live others. Keep everyone around you happy, including yourself. Fight to get your worth, and don’t succumb.

It’s easy to quote beautiful & gutsy words, but it’s not that much easy to follow. When someone bears the violence everyday, when someone has to fight everyday, when someone gets circumscribed with such circumstances everyday & everywhere, it’s not really easy! And, when someone never raised her voice earlier but had been enduring the pain before it was realized that it’s not done, it’s not easy et al!!!  One gets apprehensive at each & every step while alarming the issue as the criminal isn’t single but in numbers.

Our traditions, customs and beliefs encompass the behavioral- pattern which promotes the philosophy of significance of male over female, and unfortunately it’s too deeply- rooted to root out of the system.

In our culture, a boy is supposed to cremate the parents. Thus, he holds an indispensable position in a family. Birth of a boy child brings back the forbidden festivals. So, everyone awaits him eagerly. Still, a girl’s family has to give dowry. Thus, it’s still distressing even if the girl is not considered to be a burden. A girl has to leave her parents after marriage, and…… she isn’t supposed to be a family-member anymore to take help from. Hence, parents are dependent on their son. And, all this accounts to ‘her’ abasement.

Consequently, a girl child gets deprived with emotions & food which summarizes her growth-factor. A boy chides, & even hits, her sister with no reason but just to rule over her. She isn’t supposed to reciprocate his rude demeanor. And, if she protests any mischievous behavior, even then she has to move her steps first to maintain good siblings- relationships. She has no right over the property of her parents as it is to be inherited to him. He gets food first, while cooking & serving food for ‘everyone’ isn’t his business. She may not enjoy any song while he could stare at the female in the song, even if he pretends to not finding it good enough.

When a male learns to rule over females at his home, he desires to rule over every next woman; & commits molestation & rape. His masculinity doesn’t allow him to bow in front of others, & to get any retribution; though he bows in front of one lady- ‘Devi Durga’.

I wish for a community here, which works for the betterment of the fairer-sex with some concrete steps. Which besides organizing events & workshops, I wish, demands for some changes in our laws: where a couple could move in any of the spouse’s house wherever they desire; where she has a right over the parental-property irrespective of her marital-status; where she could also cremate her parents; where a girl has to contribute to her parents’ old-age pension schemes, & any other suitable law which could help in bringing the equality.

Why I am emphasizing on implementing laws- because, our society (one of the criminals) doesn’t comprehend & accept something which seems a fantasy to them. For instance, if a couple decides to live in a female’s home, or if the husband decides to stay at home while his wife goes out for work, he gets derided by the society for being a slave under his wife. Implementation of laws could help them to accept it as a norm & to leave the decision to the couple.   

This composition has not been written to hurt the sensitive community of my ‘opposite gender- male’. Excerpts of this composition aren’t fiction or any part of my creativity, but a Reality. It’s a disheartening situation which prevails in our society.    

Help!

Protest! 

To know more about the idea of stimulation of social ventures which help for the betterment of society, visit : http://www.isb.edu/idiya/

 iDiya is an initiative by ISB. Here, Indiblogger's initiative IndiChange & iDiya have come together to make this world a better place to live.

Come together to end these crimes

India’s most common violence, in print, is ‘rape’. Every day you pick your newspaper, and you find, at least, one rape case to read. And, India’s another (again) most common violence, not in print, is ‘domestic violence’. It happens in regular India but you hardly find a case to read for. In both cases, often a victim is a female. Someone who brings life to the world, but someone who has always been considered secondary to this world!

Often, in case of any violence, a victim experiences the fear of a perpetrator when s/he bears any crime. But, in these cases, even when she isn’t the victim she knows how it feels. She experiences, & knows what pain the other woman would have been going through at the other end.

When I was a child, even then whenever I would come across a rape scene in any feature film it made me feel uneasy. As I grew up, there had been a thought that this fear lasts till I am young, but………..now, I fear till I die. After the 16^th December Delhi gang-rape case, a 70 year old lady became a victim of shame. She would never have thought of this nightmare to happen at this age by two unknown guys. But, unfortunately some females bear domestic nightmares since their childhood and that too by some known people around them.

What makes these cases more happening is the undue advantage to get away with these crimes. A rapist rapes & gets away. A molester, an assaulter, or a wife beater hits the women & it hardly comes to the proof that it was committed by him, or worse, if it really happened. To prevent this wild nonsense, ‘we’ need the support of this ‘same gender’ that could help us get a respectful life- a sense of achievement to do what pleases us. After an unfortunate day of the 16^th December, some good spirits came to protest violence against women, but the evil spirits overcame them. I don’t expect an overnight transformation of this male- dominant society into a pro-women one. Devil will always be there because without them good spirits can’t exist. But, we could, at least, overcome them.

With continual protests after rape incidents, we might have been expecting a rise of mental attitude. But with this picture, we could hardly expect that. Could you see the smiling faces of these so called protesters (circled one) against the brutal rape incident of a school girl at Mangolpuri in New Delhi? To make some serious changes in society you needn’t be a serious person, but there must be some seriousness. Here, they are just enjoying the stone-pelting activity. How could I say that I feel safe in night?

Indiblogger has organized a meeting in association with Indichange & Breakthrough for tomorrow. The meeting was scheduled to wind up at 10:00pm. But, most of the females (including me) - who are likely to be there to discuss the topic ‘violence against women’- requested them to make some alterations to the timings. I want to roam freely just as men do. I don’t want someone to be there with me to provide a protection as a Bodyguard, or my parents ask me to take extra precautions.

I protest every mischievous behavior, but even then some moments give me doubts! A salute to the women’s spirit is enlightening but some horrendous crimes make it disheartening. This world runs with inter-dependence. Without you we mean nothing, & without us you couldn’t even dream of being something.

Pledge to protest!

Be Safe!

Happy International Women’s Day!  :)

Life- A Telescope

It’s not always a sunrise or a sunset,

you need not to be a master or a puppet.

Wandering with wonders hardly do the wonders;

bringing the telescope may clear the pictures.

Flipping pages don’t go for the ride,

reading the fine lines may turn the dark tide.

Roaming the globe isn’t always a scope;

may map out the sites, cos life is just a telescope.