We get life once, and
we should try to live it at our best. Live & let live others. Keep everyone
around you happy, including yourself. Fight to get your worth, and don’t
succumb.
It’s easy to quote beautiful & gutsy words, but it’s not
that much easy to follow. When someone bears the violence everyday, when someone
has to fight everyday, when someone gets circumscribed with such circumstances
everyday & everywhere, it’s not really easy! And, when someone never raised
her voice earlier but had been enduring the pain before it was realized that
it’s not done, it’s not easy et al!!! One
gets apprehensive at each & every step while alarming the issue as the
criminal isn’t single but in numbers.
Our traditions, customs and beliefs encompass the
behavioral- pattern which promotes the philosophy of significance of male over
female, and unfortunately it’s too deeply- rooted to root out of the system.
In our culture, a boy is supposed to cremate the parents. Thus,
he holds an indispensable position in a family. Birth of a boy child brings
back the forbidden festivals. So, everyone awaits him eagerly. Still, a girl’s
family has to give dowry. Thus, it’s still distressing even if the girl is not considered
to be a burden. A girl has to leave her parents after marriage, and…… she isn’t
supposed to be a family-member anymore to take help from. Hence, parents are
dependent on their son. And, all this accounts to ‘her’ abasement.
Consequently, a girl child gets deprived with emotions &
food which summarizes her growth-factor. A boy chides, & even hits, her
sister with no reason but just to rule over her. She isn’t supposed to reciprocate
his rude demeanor. And, if she protests any mischievous behavior, even then she
has to move her steps first to maintain good siblings- relationships. She has
no right over the property of her parents as it is to be inherited to him. He gets
food first, while cooking & serving food for ‘everyone’ isn’t his business.
She may not enjoy any song while he could stare at the female in the song, even
if he pretends to not finding it good enough.
When a male learns to rule over females at his home, he
desires to rule over every next woman; & commits molestation & rape. His
masculinity doesn’t allow him to bow in front of others, & to get any
retribution; though he bows in front of one lady- ‘Devi Durga’.
I wish for a community here, which works for the betterment
of the fairer-sex with some concrete steps. Which besides organizing events
& workshops, I wish, demands for some changes in our laws: where a couple
could move in any of the spouse’s house wherever they desire; where she has
a right over the parental-property irrespective of her marital-status; where she
could also cremate her parents; where a girl has to contribute to her parents’ old-age
pension schemes, & any other suitable law which could help in bringing the equality.
Why I am emphasizing on implementing laws- because, our
society (one of the criminals) doesn’t comprehend & accept something which
seems a fantasy to them. For instance, if a couple decides to live in a
female’s home, or if the husband decides to stay at home while his wife goes
out for work, he gets derided by the society for being a slave under his wife. Implementation
of laws could help them to accept it as a norm & to leave the decision to
the couple.
This composition has
not been written to hurt the sensitive community of my ‘opposite gender- male’.
Excerpts of this composition aren’t fiction or any part of my creativity, but a
Reality. It’s a disheartening situation which prevails in our society.
Help!
Protest!
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When you said that those criminals are in number, you are right. Actually what you said in your post is true, our society is nurturing it. We are taught from day one that male is better, he will protect you, however considering what's happening it's opposite. My parents feel I am more responsible as a daughter than my brother and I must tell you that I call my brother modern shravan kumar, he is that much respectful to my parents. But somehow my parents feel having a daughter is a bliss. I sincerely hope all parents think like this.
ReplyDeleteThere is a lot of anger and honesty in your post, Gayatri and I respect that.
Actually, that's the only reality, dear! Our customs don't allow to bring equality in the system. And, sigh, it takes time!
DeleteThanks for your support! :)
some very valid points there. great to see you guys writing for a cause. hopefully, your efforts won't go in vain.
ReplyDeletea very thoughtful post!
Hope so,..... that some concrete steps would be taken by these organisations so that a new generation evolves.
DeleteThank you, dear! :)